BUBBLE 7/ 1 – DELVING INTO THE PSYCHE

Bismillah Hir Rahman ir Raheem

Isn’t it weird that when you’re little, you would always have a smile on your face, you’d giggle and laugh and tickle and cuddle and play around all day long. Even in the early teens, you’re like the jolliest person in the whole world. Yet when you start progressing from your late teens, you’re trying to understand what it means to be happy, or if it even is possible to be happy. I didn’t have this experience to an extreme level and for a long time.

This upsetting, depressive and anxious phase of my life was Alhamdulillah only from when I was 16 and a half years old to 17 and a half years old where I was lost and confused and every decision I made seemed to be wrong and would cause problems one way or another, and like I mentioned in my “RAMADAN MUBARAK” there was a point where I had to make a decision between two things and they both seemed right yet they both seemed wrong and a wrong decision would turn out to be very bad but I didn’t know which was which (Sorry but I won’t tell exactly what happened, it’s too personal). I would be compared to others sooooooooo much I began to despise my ‘dull and boring’ self.

But during this phase, you find something that gives you comfort, that tells you that all these things are unimportant and will pass away. For people it can be wisdom from a meaningful book, a great companion or friend who shows you the way, some saint who enlightens you. For me, it was Allah. Excuse me if I become too religious too often in my blogs. I normally don’t express it much except with my family, especially Mama, but it’s because I’m not ashamed of it. He found me lost and guided me. When I was searching for answers, He opened the doors for me through the Holy Quran to seek the solutions. Although I am a born Muslim, I feel like I actually converted when I was 16 because that’s when Allah’s importance came into my life. I still had and have trouble making decisions and feel hurt and judged by others but due to Allah being by my side, I understand that everything happens for a reason, that nothing lasts forever and the way we think about our situation effects our current state of mind, not necessarily the situation itself. I merely push the thoughts aside and move on. Thus, I feel happy, content, hopeful and optimistic. Even when people hurt me, even those closest to me, I hold no grudges against them, expect nothing from them and realize that I should put my trust in the One Who created me. I trust those close to me but I am always 500% sure Allah will not break my trust.

I recently started having an interest in studying Psychology. I’ve taken it as my A-Level subject along with sciences. I want to grow up and be a psychiatrist/psychologist, Inshallah. The main cause is my surroundings. In our Pakistani society, doing anything new or out of the ordinary is always judged; in dressing, ambitions, beliefs, etc. so having a passion of, say a musician, psychologist, geologist, etc. is frowned upon once they hear about it. People adjust to new concepts but when they first hear it, they’re like, “What’s the point of taking this profession?”

“You will not find a job for this!”

and the legendary statement many of us quote here, which is like the pinnacle of judgement. Like seriously, all other judgmental words, every letter and syllable,bow down to this god of statements. And that is!!! *drum rolls*

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BEHOLD!!:

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“LOG KYA KAHEINGEY?!!” 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 Translation: WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY?!!”

A lot of us fall prey to this statement and it makes our lives miserable. This comes in the way of all our passions and almost everywhere in our day to day life. So apparently, anything other than a Doctor, Engineer or Lawyer is considered ‘nothing’. Yet when you need expertise for a variety of fields related to something, we have to ‘call international personel’ because ‘we don’t have skilled people here’. I want to break this cycle of thought, like many people do, and expand our horizons of expertise. Our country does not need as much labourers as it needs thinkers because there is a surplus of labour. But we need people to think deeply, to ponder over things, to be inquisitive and develop critical thinking, to understand why things are the way they are, why people are the way they are. We need to be leaders; working under people is easy but we can be manipulated in that way. Philosophy, music, astronomy, etc. are parts of our everyday knowledge we acquire from different sources but why not delve deep into these universes? Be open to the varieties of talent the nation has in store.

Whatever you do, do what you love. Everyone has to work hard in every field. So it is better to work hard at something you enjoy doing. If there is no field, you make a field. If there is no person offering jobs for your field, get the experience and be the boss yourself. People will always judge something they do not understand but in the end, they will be proven wrong. But let’s be careful ourselves not to do the same thing to others because after all, we are part of society nonetheless and if almost everyone experiences it then…………….it’s a weird double-standard situation. We’re all perfectly imperfect so let’s treat others in the way we want to be treated. And let us not judge others by appearances especially. Don’t think someone is bad or good only because of how they look. Looks fade but character endures

P.S this blog is continued in the next one

Peace out πŸ˜€

7 thoughts on “BUBBLE 7/ 1 – DELVING INTO THE PSYCHE

  1. ok im being honest, at first I thought this post is sooo long, but after reading it its really worth it! I was literally smiling with myself through some paragraphs and pondering over others. Whatever you said is so true, we are scared of what others will say, what they will thing or will they judge me. But I think if you do what other people want you to do, then you become a slave of society, wher in reality you should only be a slave of Allah. Therefore, it doesnt really matter. I really like psychology as well, planning to study it at uni in sha allah. Regarding your friend, I think you can say that as time passes by, the horse will get thirsty without any doubt, and if he doesnt drink the water, he will eventually die. So take the first step in the name of Allah and make lot of duaa! May Allah make it easy for her and all of us to pass our test successfully!

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    1. Hahahaaha, yes so i warned you about it 😝 yes, we should not think what society will think because at one time they will accept one thing and later they may accept something that is not acceptable now. It will always change so we should always and only think “what will Allah say?” And Ameen to your well wishes. Thank you for the compliment and wishing my friend well. Hopefully life will become easy for her 😁

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